Something has been weighing on me, and I feel like I just need to put it out there. I think this will be an unpopular opinion, but I’d still like to share it. Whenever something good happens to someone, a family member, colleague, or friend, the first words spoken to them might be something like “congratulations”, “awesome”, “wow, that’s amazing”, or “good for you”. These are typical responses, and they are ones that should definitely be shared. What about the other typical response? The “you’re so lucky” response, which is often met with annoyance or offense, is a common response when something good happens to other people.
Have you ever said that to someone or had it said to you, and the reaction has been one of disagreement? Try telling someone that they are lucky when they have good news and see what they say, as well as how they say it. People take such offense when you tell them that they have good luck, and then they feel the need to explain that they’ve gotten great things because they work hard. Did you really question their work ethic though? I don’t think so.
I believe in luck – good luck and bad luck. I believe that when you take hard work, good timing, and the right choices and opportunities you will have good luck. I believe that even if you have all of those things, but they don’t all meet and fit together then you will have bad luck. I believe that telling someone they are lucky does not mean that they don’t work hard. In fact, I think that when someone opposes being told how lucky they are, essentially they are intimating that other people don’t work hard or as hard as them.
If you and someone else were to have very similar situations in life but only you advanced in some way then it is only natural to assume that the other person didn’t work as hard. From birth, the one thing almost everyone has in common is that they are told that the only way they will be successful (in any form) is through hard work and persistence. Good things come to those who work hard. That may be true, but it’s not the absolute truth.
You don’t get to where you are solely because of your work ethic. If that were the case, then there would be less people living in poverty, a little less reliance on socialism, more people living their best lives which would lead to possibly more happiness in the world, and a lot more people would be working their dream jobs and/or getting everything they want in life. Not a fact but a real possibility. Hard work is just one piece of the puzzle and rewards don’t come just because of that. What about those people who work hard all their lives and still their situations never seem to change? What about those people who are constantly rewarded and handed things but don’t actually seem to work as hard? In fact, who is the judge of what hard work really is?
Some people break their backs in food service or retail well into old age, but can never make ends meet. Some people get college degrees but can’t make a lucrative career in their chosen field or make ends meet. Who is working harder, the person in customer service or the one who got a degree? I know it isn’t as simple as that. However, it’s also not as simple to think that someone who believes in others being lucky doesn’t also believe that the lucky ones work hard.
When something good happens to you, it’s nice to think that you worked hard for it. You want to believe that everything you gain is because you put your blood, sweat, and tears into it and you really earned it. That may be true, but when you insist that it’s your hard work that got you to where you are then it can seem like you discount other people’s hard work. Do you think that people who don’t have what you do don’t work as hard as you? Do you think that they are getting what they deserve just as you are?
No one person is more deserving of anything than another. I am not more deserving than the next person. You are not more deserving than another person, but maybe you just have more good luck. If someone tells you that you are lucky, why should you be offended because they believe that you have a good force working for you? Everyone has luck, but it can present itself as good or bad depending on the circumstances. It’s a culmination of your “hard work, good timing, and the right choices or opportunities” either meeting and fitting together or not fitting.
When someone says you are lucky try not to think of it as them disregarding your hard work. Try to picture it as your hard work finally aligning with the other puzzle pieces to give you something good. People believe in all sorts of things like affirmations, astrology, crystal energies, and the like to help bring good things to their lives so why can’t they also believe that luck plays a big part in it? The next time someone says “you’re so lucky” try thanking them or letting them know that even though it may not always seem like it you recognize that in the moment you are lucky!
I would love to read about whether you agree or disagree in the comments below.